“It’s a very good e-book!” 97-year-old Nils exclaims, skimming through a brochure on sexual relations and desires among seniors, in the common room at his retirement home in Sweden.
Here, at the Lindgarden facility in the southern village of Broby, the 56 residents aged 65 and above can now avail of a recently added programme on how to lead a healthy sex life.
There are no sex toys or pornography lining the tidy halls. But when a new person moves in, they’re immediately offered an informal discussion on intimacy and desire.
“The counsellor has a conversation with the client and asks him or her some of the questions we’ve established about sexual health,” Lindgarden director Liselott Klang, 54, informed AFP.
She began the challenge a 12 months in the past, initially as a method of permitting her workers to debate the subject with out embarrassment.
“Previously, workers didn’t really feel snug once they noticed a resident masturbating in public, or actually couldn’t perceive why somebody wanted assist reserving a lodge room,” Klang defined.
To make the seniors feel more comfortable, the establishment has put together a “pleasure basket” with lotions and intercourse toys the residents should purchase.
The basket comprises, amongst different issues, a “Please don’t disturb” sign, various creams and lubricants, dildos, penis pumps and penis rings.
Emilie Nilsson, a 39-year-old care assistant, admits she was originally apprehensive.
“It was a bit scary at first,” she stated.
“But the extra you’re employed on it, the extra you perceive that it’s not nearly intercourse. It’s about closeness, and that everybody wants a hug.”
“So now it’s all very natural.”
It’s about intimacy
Sexual well being amongst older and disabled folks is a matter coming to the fore — albeit slowly — in lots of Western international locations.
“Sexual well being isn’t just about intercourse, it’s about intimacy,” Klang said.
The aim is to “allow the individual to remain an individual even when moving into a nursing home”.
For residents, the difficulty has additionally develop into simpler to debate instantly with the carers, who take care of all their fundamental wants.
“As carers, we’re very shut. We assist them with their each day grooming,” said Louise Karlsson, one of Lindgarden’s managers.
All the staff have received training from sexologist Suzann Larsdotter.
“The issue has been invisible for years, but is now gradually gaining ground in the country,” she stated.
“It’s a brand new phenomenon, particularly in an ageist society like Sweden the place seniors are sometimes disregarded. But there may be increasingly more consciousness that sexual well being is a proper,” the therapist added.
In the common room, Nils and his friends joke about the subject but shy away from discussing it with strangers.
Positive reactions
Klang says the project has been met with “positive reactions, a lot of humour, curiosity, but also a certain shyness”.
“It can take weeks between the primary dialog and the second once they dare to return and discuss extra about it,” she stated.
“But often these become deep discussions where one can talk about grief, loss or longing for a missing partner.”
What counts, she stated, is that the seniors know they’ve somebody to speak to.
Fantasies and wishes, once they exist, are fulfilled as a lot as attainable.
“We have to have the ability to clarify and reveal issues, like the right way to maintain the catheters so as to have the ability to have intercourse,” Klang said.
“Each generation thinks that its generation is the most sexually active, the one with the most desire,” she stated with a chuckle.
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